When your child doesn’t give a …..

CB037611 Last night, I was at my monthly BUNCO game fiesta- God how I love that Bunco group of ladies! They were so encouraging and excited for me about the accomplishment of writing this book It wasn't long before our converstion turned to our kids organizing techniques or lack there of.

One mom mentioned how her kid is so organized that she's making the other siblings bed every morning. Another mom mentioned that while one of her kids was so organized , the other was a disaster. And then there was the husband ( Husbands aren't really allowed at our games unless we are down a player or they take on the roll of bartender) who suggested that I write a book on how to organize the mom's. Without a minisecond passing, his wife shot him the stink eye!

What we all agreed on is that the kid who doesn't give a ....hoot...that he's unorganized, can be difficult to make him recognize that he needs improve his techniques. He may "yes" you to death, but he doesn't follow through on the tasks. No execution, as I like to say. What if his organizing style was determined and parents suggested strategies to him based on his newly identified style? Would he be more likely to carry out the plan and follow through? I think so.

As I say to new clients, the child needs to ackowledge that he is disorganizing and wants to change. He wants to be able to remember to bring home from school that notebook needed for his test, his lunchbox so he can use it the next day and the permission slip he needs to get signed so he can go on the class trip. Being disorganized results in fights between parents and child, forgetting school assignments, missing out on fun activities with friends and lower self esteem.

So the next time your child tells you that he doesn't care that he's not organized, ask him if he'd like to be more successful at school, have his homework done faster, have less yelling in the house, and be allowed to have more time to play video games. Chances are he just might be willing to take the chance and change his ways.

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Deborah Carney

Marcella,

I am so excited about your book and the information that you are offering. I am a Certified Professional Organizer and my sister - a Learning Specialist and I work with students to teach them to organize their school work. We test our clients to determine what their organizing style is and then teach them paper management methodology. Our goal is to provide students with the tools, terms, and methodologies that they need to help them organize, manage, and process their school work - by themselves. Our ultimate goal is to share these methodologies with parents and educators in an effort to implement standardized organizational processes and procedures in school systems.

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I would love it if you would take a look at our product http://www.neworderorganizers.... and consider linking to our site so that others can know about it. We would also love to promote your book on our site. There are many organizers out there that work with children and would love to know about your book!

Debbie Carney